What attractive men know about women that unattractive men don’t
A while back I was at an event talking with a group of guys who know what I do for a living. Invariably they all want to see me use a “magic line” that somehow gets women to be attracted to me, and they always want to see a “demo.”
Usually I politely decline, but occasionally an opportunity will present itself that lends itself to the true demonstration of attraction.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw a guy walk up to an attractive woman (also attending that conference) and make a dumbass comment about the way she was dressed. What was dumb about it was not the comment itself, it was the way he said it, and his body language.
So after he walked away (and she was happy to see him go) I walked up and said exactly the same thing–with a naughty grin on my face, and a mischievous look in my eye. All I can say is, her response to me was different from the choad she just ran off.
Why? Because I acknowledge the sexual dynamic that’s always present between men and women, no matter the situation. He didn’t- he tried to pretend it wasn’t there, and that he wasn’t attracted to her, which she knew was BS.
She classified him as a liar from the get-go, whereas she knows I’m acknowledging the truth of the interaction, that I’m a man, she’s a woman, and there’s a spark there. Does that mean that I act on it? No, not at all. But because I acknowledge it, it makes her comfortable with me.
That’s one of the underground secrets men who are attractive to women know that men who are unattractive or downright creepy don’t. Unattractive guys pretend there’s no sexual tension–attractive guys acknowledge and embrace it, but also transmit to her they’re in control of their actions.
Powerful stuff, fellas–put it to work and enjoy the results!
On with the fun….
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The last word on “chemistry”—for now
If you read through any number of women’s online profiles, you’ll see a constant running through them: a desire to feel “chemistry” with a man.
Here are a few of my observations and experiences with “chemistry.” First off, “chemistry” is a word that holds deep meaning for women, but not much meaning for men.
Chemistry is not to be confused with “love” although many people, unfortunately, do so. It’s a transient high that occurs when two people first meet each other, and it’s something that lasts for months, not years—it tends to wear off with time and familiarity.
Chemistry is triggered in women by what I call, “naughty boy” behavior in men… unpredictable, fun, unexpected things, a “naughty boy smile,” then switching between sincerity and back again to “naughtiness” just when she thinks she has you figured out.
When women experience “intense chemistry” with a guy, they tend to think about him all the time—scarcity can increase the intensity all the more, because when you part ways, you leave her wanting more, with her not wanting you to leave.
Under the glare of intense chemistry (where “longing” is a component) women tend to rationalize or “re-frame” obvious bad behavior by the guy—he borrows money from her constantly because he’s a lazy bum, she views him as simply “down on his luck, someone who’ll get it together soon.” When the chemistry disappears, and she sees the bum for what he is, oftentimes you’ll hear these exact words, “I just don’t know what I saw in him.”
Chemistry is not something that “happens,” it can be created by careful practice and application of what I teach in Secrets of Natural Attraction When you switch the question in your head from, “Gee, I wonder if she likes me?” to “How can I create and enhance ‘chemistry’ in her?” you’re well on your way to massive success with women.
Obviously there’s more to know about chemistry—but if you keep the above in mind when interacting with any woman, more often than not you’ll do something few people are ever able to do in OR out of school… get an “A” in chemistry.
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On with the fun…